Sunday, October 14, 2012


सखये,

तू विचारलेस मज कधी...
का शोधिसी तू किनारा...

का निळाईत चांदण्या न्हाल्या...
का दवबिंदूत गोठल्या ज्वाळा...

का मनाच्या कुरुक्षेत्री मजला...
ना भेटला तो सारथी बासुरीवाला...

तेव्हा सांगेन मी तुज प्रिये,
आत्मा देहाच्या कुडीत निवाला...

Tuesday, June 26, 2012


व्यक्तिमत्वाची "पोळी" फुलताना....

बऱ्याच दिवसांनी आम्ही सारे मित्र-मैत्रिणी गप्पा मारत बसलो होतो. आईने आमच्यासाठी पोहे केले आणि मी ते "garnish" करून सगळ्यांसाठी आणले. माझा एक मित्र प्लेट हातात घेत म्हणाला, "तुम्ही बायका स्वयंपाक  करण्यात खूप वेळ वाया घालवता!" सगळे प्रश्नार्थक  नजरेने त्याच्याकडे पाहू लागले. तो पुढे म्हणाला, " आता बघ हं, लाडू करायचे तर त्या (बायका) साऱ्या मिश्रणाचे गोळे करत बसतात. आता ते मिश्रण  असंच खाल्लं काय आणि गोळे करून खाल्लं काय, सारखंच ना! मग  लाडू वळण्यात त्यांनी त्यांचा अमूल्य वेळ फुकट का घालवावा!" या भारदस्त विचारावर सगळ्यांनी टाळ्या पिटल्या. वरवर विचार करता हे बरोबरंच वाटतं. पण हे विधान खूप वेळ माझ्या मनात घुमत राहिलं. खरंच, स्वयंपाक  ही फार "boring" आणि "time-consuming" गोष्ट आहे का? माझी आजी, आई आणि मामी यांना बघून तरी असं वाटत नाही! कारण त्यांना नाविन्याची आणि खायला घालण्याची फारंच हौस आहे! मग जसं त्यांच्या पिढीतली लोकं आम्हाला म्हणतात "आजच्या पिढीला काही करायला नको. आता सगळं "instant" चा जमाना आहे. दाण्यांचे कुटसुद्ध  या मॉल  मधून विकत आणतात. आता बोला!" हे बरोबर म्हणायचं का?

स्वयंपाक  म्हणजे 'पाककला' किंवा 'पाकशास्त्र'. आज तर हॉटेल management चे कोर्सेस यावर तूफान पैसे कमावत आहेत. Julians, chopping, slicing, saute, blanching, marinate असे शब्द ऐकले की काहीतरी skillful वाटतं. आपली आई जी घरात कोशिंबीर करते किंवा भाजीला फोडणी देते त्यात या बऱ्याचशा गोष्टी येतात. पण  इंग्रजाळलेले आपण बहुधा तिकडे लक्ष देत नाही. आता असं म्हंटल म्हणून काही माझा  हॉटेल management या क्षेत्रावर आक्षेप नाही. उलटपक्षी, मी या क्षेत्राचे आभारच मानेन की स्वयंपाकाला "पाककला" का म्हणतात ते आमच्यातल्या काहींना (जे हा कोर्स करतात!) समजते! खरं तर ही एक कला नसून अनेक कलांच (skills) combo -pack आहे!

जसे personality development / management कोर्सेस मध्ये शिकवल्या जातात - pro-activeness, time-management, prioritizing, resource management, decision-making, इत्यादी - त्या साऱ्या गोष्टी स्वयंपाक करताना सुद्ध लागतात. (खरं तर, या कोर्सेसचा उपयोग सगळ्याच गोष्टींमध्ये होतो. पण काही लोकं  "कोर्स" केला की शिकवलेल्या skills फक्त "profession" पुरत्या वापरतात!). गंमत म्हणून सांगते, माझी एक  मैत्रीण  personality development चे कोर्स चालवते. नमूद केलेल्या skills ती फार आवडीने शिकवते. कसं prioritize करायचं आणि सगळी कामं चोख पार पडायची याचं प्रात्यक्षिक एका नाटुकलीच्या रुपात सदर करते. पण ऑफिस मध्ये भेटली की तिच्या तोंडी एकंच वाक्य असतं "अगं, आज पेपर उघडून बघायलासुद्धा वेळ नाही मिळाला!"

असो, तर स्वयंपाक आणि personality development यांचा combo -pack म्हणजे: 
  • उद्याच्या भाजीसाठी आज काय - काय गोष्टी बाजारातून आणायला पाहिजेत? - Planning
  • आज कडधान्य भिजवून उद्याला होईल का? -  Planning
  • उद्या सकाळी फार वेळ नाही हातात, तर आज रात्रीच भाजी चिरून ठेऊया का? - pro-activeness
  • नेमकं सकाळी ७ ते ९ वीज जाते, mixer ची कामं सातच्या आत करायला हवीत! - pro-activeness  
  • पाच माणसांसाठी किती भाजी, पोळ्या, वरण, भात, इत्यादी करावं लागेल? घरात त्या प्रमाणे सगळं आहे ना? - resource management
  • आज पाऊस जास्तच पडला, मग पाले भाजी घ्यावी की नाही? - decision -making
  • अगदी, आज स्वयंपाक काय करायचा हासुद्धा decision -makingचाच भाग आहे!
  • लाडवांवरून आठवलं, garnishing & presentation हे तर स्वयंपाकाची शान आहेत! केलेला पदार्थ कसा दिसतो, कसा सजवून आकर्षकपणे पुढ्यात ठेवला जातो हे ही तितकंच महत्वाचं आहे. बायका लाडू का वळतात याचं उत्तर सापडलं!
हा लेख आईला दाखवला तर ती हसली आणि म्हणाली "बाईसाहेब, गेले चार दिवस नुसतं सलाडच करताहात तर एवढं सगळं लक्षात आलं ना! स्वतः केलेली भाजी प्रत्येकाला रुचकर लागते (आवडीची नसली तरी!) कारण हे सारे श्रम त्याने घेतलेले असतात!" खरंय! अगदी मान्य आहे मला! स्वयंपाकाला "पाकशास्त्र" किंवा "पाककला" का म्हणतात हे फक्त चार दिवस केलेल्या सलाडने मला शिकवलं! प्रयोग म्हणून केलेली सुरुवात वेळेचा आणि श्रमांचा मोल शिकवून गेली!

- प्रियांका तेंडोलकर
२३/६/२०१२, ९.०० स.

Saturday, March 24, 2012

It is difficult to gather one-self when you collapse in a clutter of your own self-respect! No one can respect you more than your own self... that is an eternal though painful truth... eternal because no one knows you till the end and painful because no one can appreciate the unknown "you" even after your end...


I am a foolhardy soul...quite possible that I am preoccupied with unfathomable dreams and unquenchable thirst to fulfill those... I didn't see the fall... I misjudged the sanctity of my own surroundings... and now, here I am... bruised and inconsolable!


But yes, I will grow, I will heal... from within! Because I know a rugged cloth does not require a patch, it is to be stitched with its own threads... 



Sunday, January 29, 2012

Saturday, January 28, 2012

Tuesday, January 17, 2012

National Voters Day, 25th January 2012


Voting: A right or a forced responsibility?

Being a student of political science and a social worker, I wonder what does voting mean to me and my compatriots. After reflecting over the process of juggling with thoughts while voting every year since the age of eighteen, I came across certain issues that need necessary mending in order to cast my vote for the coming Mumbai Municipal Elections on the 16th February.

Mumbai Municipal Election: issues of a Mumbaikar:

Beyond solid waste management and storm drains there are numerous issues which a voter faces in his day-to-day life:

Ø Illegal hoardings, parking on roads, uprooted paver-blocks covering the drains

Ø Unnecessary honking by vehicles, violation of pedestrians’ right, driving over the footpaths to avoid signals.

Ø Use of sky-walks for other purposes like illegal vending, anti-social activities (e.g. eve-teasing)

Ø The consistent and unnecessary digging of roads to put up hoardings, pandal structures right in the middle of crossroads/road junctions (e.g. ganeshotsav pandals, garba pandals for DJs, 31st December programmes, etc.)

Ø Problem of stray dogs, mice (climbing up my window-pane on the first floor!)

Ø Open defecation near railway tracks.

Ø Arbitrary refusal by auto-rickshaw drivers for availing transportation during peak hours.

Ø Illegal market places, creating congestion on road. (The other side of this issue is non-availability of land to declare a hawker zone to provide people a market place!)

The above points may seem smoothened by reiteration…but these issues are very much a bone of contention between the facilities provided by the MCGM and the cost-effective but illegal “functioning” of the parallel system. For instance, I buy vegetables on my way home from the station in a market which is near the station but not a legal market zone! I save time, energy and money…whereas the mercenary officials of MCGM collect their “hafta” from the vendors as a convenience, later feigning to confiscate the same vending stalls!

It is interesting to note that the MCGM does not have the will to work even though it has the authority and time; and the people do not have the time and energy to complain against such issues in the race to earn their daily bread and butter!

Yet, the whole endeavor of voting at the elections is a testimony of the people’s sovereignty and might, that make the political parties bow down once in five years to gain confidence or retain the same!

Voting – selection or elimination process? A right or a forced responsibility?

The mode of political representation is like walking a tight rope! As a voter, it is always difficult to express whether to choose a candidate or end up choosing one, after eliminating the rest. Many say, the political ideology, the rank and file of the political party, the discipline and issues raised by the party help in deciding the political representative. However, the candidates nominated by these parties for contesting elections have their personal agendas as well. How can we forget defections and coalitions are the flavour of local, regional and national politics! The public mandate must weigh the trustworthiness of the candidate more stringently, because often the personal favouritism, boot-licking, party whip and order of the high command melt down the efficacy of the candidate. Hence, the choice should be such that public representative can standby the people and not oscillate according to the whims and fancies of the political swings. Voting is just a step. Conscious voting adds substance to the activity.

Voting is a right. Let us not turn it into a forced responsibility! We claim our rights by effectuating on them and not by hibernating on them. (It’s a Virtue Of Thought Effect!).

Every single vote should make sense to bring out a sensible outcome. How will it be done? Voting should be an outcome of sound reflection, not deviated by superficial issues, parochial interests or even vengeance! It is a collective act of choosing a representative for collective benefits, though exercised individually. What matter most are the issues that are close to the heart of the people at large and not sectional, fragmented issues that divide the mandate. A citizens’ charter is highly influential to check the reliability of the promises that the contesting candidates put forth in their manifestos. It is essential to come together, voice our common interests and set them as a standard parameter on which the candidate must face the litmus test.

People are not apolitical; they have become vehement due to the obscure political dogmas. With the MCGM elections declared, the time is ripe to take a step forward. To make impact through the “VOTE”! Some small steps that can help us take a conscious decision:

v Comparison of current and previous election manifestos of all political candidates. (shows approach towards issues – dynamic or static)

v The conduct and activities of these candidates since the last elections (whether developmental or lax)

v The funding received by these candidates and their source or income – where does it come from and how it is utilized (shows transparency in functioning and ethical practices)

v Accessibility of the candidate to the public during his tenure. (shows public-friendly nature)

v Events attended or sponsored by the candidate during his tenure. (reflects his outlook towards those issues)

v Issues traced, handled and resolved during tenure. (shows the prioritizing of issues and style of functioning)

Hence, the above mentioned criteria will help us judge the candidate and make our vote more influential.

In order to effectuate the process, it is worth mentioning the “Meet your candidate” event, organized by AGNI (Action for Good Governance and Networking in India) at the ward-level, wherein these questions can be asked directly to the candidate and he/she can be held accountable.

Let us resolve to make our VOTE felt by taking a conscious decision after thorough reflection. Join various discussion forums, make your presence felt at the “Meet Your Candidate” event and use social networking (be it through internet, college groups or even your local train groups!) to keep track of the candidates.

Identity of a voter – is he sovereign or conditioned (role of press, political parties and family norms).

It is often seen that the voter is just a number for the political parties, to turn them into majority and reign. The psyche of a political party revolves around the numerical “majority” politics, which is not destabilized even by a significant dissenting minority.

The voter needs a make-over in this sense. The power of recall can prove a threat to this unperturbed feel-good factor! The citizens who vote the majority to power can utilize this weapon by consistently reflecting over their activities and political ventures! This growing political consciousness among the voters will bring down the edifice of fallacies that glosses over – ‘a voter is non-existent!’ attitude – after the candidates win the elections.

A person is qualified as an adult and a voter at the age of 18 years. He/She has the right to make his/her own informed decision as to whom to vote and why. Also, it is a confidential matter. Hence, the influence of family members affiliating to a particular ideology and political party may blind-fold the sense of conscience. Yet, it can be said that this indoctrination can be subdued if replaced by factual analysis. A comparative study put forth in front of the people may help; needless to say this is to curb the bandwagon effect.

The role of media plays a major influential role during elections. It is a two-way communication: the editorials and the letters to the editor both are oozing with juicy election propaganda. The pros and cons are seldom put together in one article. Hence, choosing cautiously what one reads and how it is to be interpreted is a debatable matter. The panelists on the television cannot be the decision-makers who yell and shout pretending to stand firm on their views; which post-elections often fade out!

Therefore, it is only the wearer who knows where the shoe pinches! Voters can judge candidates in the light of the problems they face!

Wednesday, August 24, 2011

13/7/2011

Some people may not return home today,
Some people may find alternate existence,
Some shattered to pieces, crumbled like mortal creatures,
Some revisited in memoirs for their immortal ventures.

In the name of humanity, in the name of God,
A man belies the other, defies oneness,
The mere existence on this humble Abode
Is it too much, too in vain to demand Peace?

The mind ruptures, the heart shudders,
The soul shivers in the shrill cries and moans,
It finds no room for the principled-rationale,
It brings out the deep innate ruthless vengeance!

One succumbs to the less-human vagaries,
Picks up one's own belittled self in resilience,
Walking each step in the gloom of lost spirit,
Marching towards morbid civilian facade!

Everyone knows who pays for the sin,
I know, You know and even He knows,
It's not the sinner, my dear friend,
It's the one who gives birth to humanity!